yes, my mom works!

When we were all kids, on our first interaction with any stranger often we have been asked this question “what does your dad do?” or “where does your dad work?” and after you answer the one that always follows is “does your mom work, or is she a housewife?”   

I have been asked this question a lot of times and I would always answer saying “she is a housewife”. Today, when i look back at that time, my answer kind of upsets me as much as the structure of that question does. I strongly feel like running back to that time and replacing it  with what it should have been, ” Yes! my mom works, she is a housewife.”

Housewives have been the most underrated and unapologetically considered to be old-fashioned economic burden. We have always been ignoring household chores like cleaning, maintenance and gardening because surprisingly when you look around everything is already done. That is definitely  a luxury to have!

Inspite of all this a housewife’s cabin is always filled with files labelled ‘URGENT’ all over them. A housewife’s cabin? you would apparently laugh and joke about this but the housewife’s cabin is the smallest one in the corner made of  tinted black glass and no one ever finds out what happens inside!

It dampens my spirit to see how mistakened people are  while defining this intangible service and regard it as one’s inability to dream big for herself and contribute  towards society and forget that they are a housewife’s arms in which society was born, nurtured and grown. In fact, homemaking is the industry which is responsible for generating all the human capital we have today.

Those at the back would argue saying that it is part of a woman’s duty to take care and manage her household. Now that we have decided to go down that orthodox, rigid, ignorant lane of thoughts and stick to the pre-told, outdated gender roles then it is also a man’s duty to win bread for his house but I dont see his efforts being ignored after performing it. On the contrary he enjoys acknowledgement both in form of a salary and status.

39% of the population of India, employed in ‘paid and visible’ jobs looks forward to hot cooked food and  tidy rooms after they return home from work every evening. Unfortunately, a housewife is a CEO of  a company in which everyone is paid and praised except  her. I am not saying that there should be salary for every housewife, we cannot even do that because, home making is not a 9 to 5 job it is a ‘when you open your eyes’ to ‘when you close your eyes job’.

Although if you were to calculate the worth of household chores in monetary terms the numbers will leave you confounded! An average homemaking job includes approximately 18 hours of child care and 45 hours of household work each week, that constitutes up-to 11 trillion US dollars worth  unpaid work globally, providing  for better health, nourishment and developed human resource. The US department of commerce’s bureau for economic analysis said that if we equate the value of the housework done with the market price of the services that it is replaceable with it will add 3.8 trillion dollars to the economy of the United States with the GDP being 26% higher.

Just because nobody is paying for it does not mean it does not have an economic value. Obviously we cannot prescribe the value of the prodigious work they have been doing but the least we can do is to recognize their work and appreciate it.

So the next time you see a mommy, a sister or a friend who has been busy all this while building your house and your life, hug her and tell her that she has done such an awesome job and she is your super woman! Trust me it takes a lot to be “just” a housewife!

P.S. looking forward to a day where i can write a more positive post about this and not only use the proverb her but also use him. 

15 thoughts on “yes, my mom works!

  1. MAHENDRA KAMBKE Dec 11, 2018 — 6:34 pm

    Very thoughtful article , describing importance of housewives. Yes ! housewives are really “working ” women.

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  2. Very true, Excelente observation.

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  3. अगदी समर्पक लिहीलंय सर …गृहमातेचा सन्मान हीच आपली खरी पुजा असावी असं माझं ही मत आहे सर..खुप छान वैचारीक लेखा बद्दल मनःपुर्वक धन्यवाद- विजय फळणीकर

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  4. Yes. I do agree and same feelings are with me too. Regards and respect. Kiran

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  5. खुप दिवसांपासून मनात अनेक वेळा खड़खदनारी गोष्ट , तू सुबक पणे शब्दात बांधली ।। तुला शब्द लीलया खेलवता येत आहेत आणि मनाला ते भावते आहे।।
    असेच लिहित रहा ।।
    आणि ।अश्या अनेक अव्यक्त भावना आणि जाणिवा शब्दबद्ध कर।।
    दिनेश जोशी।।

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    1. Thank you, nakkich ajun lihit rahil

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  6. Yes my wife is CEO of my family,I agree very nice article

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  7. Great real thought…. Inspired

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  8. Suwarna Pawar Dec 12, 2018 — 2:00 pm

    Read your all posts. Your observations of the things and persons aroud are keen and with a very sensitive and thoughtful mind. Your expression and writing skills are too good at such young age. Keep it up and all the best!

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  9. Thank you mam. I am glad u took out time and read the posts and appreciated them

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  10. A novel and eye opener analysis of a mom’s (housewife’s) work. Well related in economic terms also. We really appreciate your way of looking at otherwise taken for granted things at such a young age in such an unorthodox way, analyzing these in a perfect, correct and appealing way and making us to have fresh look at these. 👍

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